Your Funeral

Your Say

A workbook for writing down

what you'd actually want,

so the people you love

aren't left guessing.

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Your Funeral

Your Say

A workbook for writing down what you'd actually want, so the people you love aren't left guessing.

Don't make them guess

A friend spent the days before her mother's funeral arguing with her brother about songs. They both had ideas but they were guessing about a woman who'd had firm opinions on absolutely everything.

That's how most of it gets decided. In about four days, by people working from what they can remember, about things nobody ever wrote down.

Death Wishes is where you write it down.

What is it?

Death Wishes is a workbook. You fill it in, you tell someone where it lives, and it sits on a shelf until it's needed.

Part life history, part logistics

Part life history,

part logistics

The logistics are the decisions your family would otherwise make at speed with nothing to go on. Burial or cremation. Who to call. Whether you want a service at all. What happens to your dog, your photos, your Facebook account.

The life history is the part nobody thinks to ask for until they need it: Where you grew up. What you believed. The stories you'd want told, and who you'd want telling them. Room to write to people individually, when three spaces aren't enough.

It's not a will and it's not a legal document.

It's the human half of the paperwork, and it's the half rarely written down.

What's Inside

18 Sections.

(The short version)

The decisions: burial or cremation, what kind of service, where, who runs it, whether there's a service at all
The tone: formal or informal, funny or reflective, and the readings and music that go with it
About you: early life, the chapters that shaped you, what you valued, what you were known for
About your people: space to write to them individually, and more space when three spots isn't enough
The eulogy: prompts, and room to write your own if you'd rather not leave it to chance
Special touches: dress codes, charity donations, the song, the thing that was unmistakably you
Who to tell and who to invite: a phone tree and a guest list, with contact details
The photos: which ones, where they live, how to make sure they're actually usable on the day
Your accounts: what happens to Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, Snapchat and Twitter, with the actual instructions for each
Personal items: clothes, jewellery, tools, tech, pets, the sentimental things a will rarely covers
Colouring pages: scattered throughout, on purpose. More on those below.

The decisions: burial or cremation, what kind of service, where, who runs it, whether there's a service at all
The tone: formal or informal, funny or reflective, and the readings and music that go with it
About you: early life, the chapters that shaped you, what you valued, what you were known for
About your people: space to write to them individually, and more space when three spots isn't enough
The eulogy: prompts, and room to write your own if you'd rather not leave it to chance

Special touches: dress codes, charity donations, the song, the thing that was unmistakably you
Who to tell and who to invite: a phone tree and a guest list, with contact details
The photos: which ones, where they live, how to make sure they're actually usable on the day
Your accounts: what happens to Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, Snapchat and Twitter, with the actual instructions for each
Personal items: clothes, jewellery, tools, tech, pets, the sentimental things a will rarely covers
Colouring pages: scattered throughout, on purpose. More on those below.

About the Flowers

You'll notice line drawings throughout the book. They're there to be coloured in.

Some of these pages take a bit out of you. The colouring gives your hands something to do while you think, and a reason to stay at the table (instead of closing the book and finding something else to do).

The format is intentional. 48 pages, A4, wire-bound so it opens flat and is easy to write in. It's designed to be written in by hand, put on a shelf, and found by someone else. Not a file on a laptop nobody can unlock.

Who Its For

People sorting their own affairs. You don't want the kids guessing.
You have opinions and you'd like them known.
People who already run everything. You know where the insurance is, who to ring, what the passwords are. Nobody else does. This gets it out of your head and onto paper.
People helping a parent get organised. It gives you something to hand over rather than a conversation to start cold. Sometimes a workbook on the kitchen table does the asking for you.

The Honest Bit

A few things this is not, because you should know before you buy it.

It is not a will. A will says who gets what, and it needs to be a proper legal document. Death Wishes sits alongside it and covers everything a will doesn't. Death Wishes and a will do different jobs, and many people need both.

It is not legally binding. Death Wishes records your preferences so the people making the decisions know what you wanted. Funeral and burial wishes aren't generally legally binding in Australia, although there are some exceptions depending on the circumstances and state.
It is not a two-minute job. You'll get through some of it in a sitting. Other pages you'll want to think about, or talk to someone about first. Start it this weekend and finish it over a few weeks. That's normal and the book is built for it.
We are not lawyers or financial advisers. This is general information and a place to write things down. For anything complicated, get proper advice.

Why Bother Doing It Now?

Because the alternative is your family making a dozen decisions in four days with nothing to go on. What music. Whether you wanted a service at all. Whether you'd have hated the whole production.

This is about creating memories of your goodbye that are consistent with what you want

Writing it down doesn't make the week any easier. It just takes the guessing out of it.

Who Its For

1. People sorting their own affairs. You don't want the kids guessing. You have opinions and you'd like them known.

2. People who already run everything. You know where the insurance is, who to ring, what the passwords are. Nobody else does. This gets it out of your head and onto paper.

3. People helping a parent. It gives you something to hand over rather than a conversation to start cold.

Sometimes a workbook on the kitchen table does the asking for you.

The Honest Bit

A few things this is not, because you should know before you buy it.

It is not a will. A will says who gets what, and it needs to be a proper legal document. Death Wishes sits alongside it and covers everything a will doesn't. You need both, and they do different jobs.

It is not legally binding. Your funeral wishes aren't enforceable in Australia regardless of how you record them. What this does is make sure the people deciding actually know what you wanted, which in practice is what matters.
It is not a two-minute job. You'll get through some of it in a sitting. Other pages you'll want to think about, or talk to someone about first. Start it this weekend and finish it over a few weeks. That's normal and the book is built for it.
We are not lawyers or financial advisers. This is general information and a place to write things down. For anything complicated, get proper advice.

Why Bother Doing it Now?

Because the alternative is your family making a dozen decisions in four days with nothing to go on. What music. Whether you wanted a service at all. Whether you'd have hated the whole production.

This is about creating memories of your goodbye that are consistent with what you want

Writing it down doesn't make the week any easier. It just takes the guessing out of it.

Price and Delivery

Death Wishes

printed workbook

$69

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Bonus:

FREE digital version of the workbook, emailed,

so you can print extra pages whenever

you need them.

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(Postage times will vary and are based on standard delivery times from Perth, WA)

Frequently Asked Questions about Death Wishes

Is this going to be depressing?

Less than you'd think. Most people find it oddly satisfying, like clearing out a cupboard. There are a few pages that give you pause. The rest is admin, and admin is not sad.

Do I still need a will?

Yes. Completely separate thing, and this doesn't replace it. A will handles who gets what. Death Wishes handles everything else.

What if I don't know what I want?

Most people don't, until someone asks the question properly. That's most of what the book does. And you're allowed to write "I don't mind", which is genuinely useful information for the people deciding.

Can I change my mind later?

Of course. Pencil is fine. People update it after a big birthday, a health scare, or a funeral that made them think.

Who should I give it to?

Don't give it to anyone. Fill it in, then tell one or two people where it lives. The whole point is that it can be found.

What if my family won't talk about this?

Then leave it on the kitchen table and say nothing. It's remarkable how often the book starts the conversation without you having to.

How is this different from the digital version?

Same content. The printed one is wire bound so it opens flat and stays open while you write, and it can be found by someone who doesn't have your passwords. Your copy comes with the digital version too, so you can print extra pages whenever you need them.

What if I want to give it to someone rather than fill it in myself?

People do. It works better handed over than posted, and better still left somewhere they'll find it without a conversation attached. There's no rule that you have to explain it.

How long will it take to arrive?

Standard Australia Post delivery times from Perth, WA.